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#BloggerBride: Why Do I Feel Guilty For Planning My Own Wedding?

The closer I get to my wedding day, the more guilt I feel. 

Guilt because I feel like I should putting more time, if not all of my time, into planning one of the biggest days of my life. But you know…being a freelance journalist and blogger doesn’t really allow me to be off, it doesn’t really make way for any down time, any days where I’m not creating content or meeting up with clients or editing a video or new post…right?

I’m supposed to use all my free time working on my Instagram strategy for the week, mapping out my shoot schedules and reading through my analytics, am I right?

The closer I get to August 18, 2018 (wedding day), the more I feel the urge to forget work and take a break from it all to focus this very special day; but for some reason this nagging “you can’t walk away from your blog” feeling looms over me! It’s like a dark shadow that wont go away and every time I think I’ve shaken it off, it comes back bigger and darker.

There are days I don’t want to write, nor post a photo to Instagram and just take up a corner seat in the nearest coffee shop, flipping through wedding magazines, casually choosing my nail polish color, researching possible honeymoon locations or sending my hair stylist inspo pics for my pixie ‘do.

Even beyond wedding day, I’m also simultaneously renovating and decorating what will soon be our marital home! Furniture, tupperware, choosing paint colors, do I want a four-range or six-range stove; rainfall shower head or the regular ones?

So much to do, so little time!

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While I’ve mapped all of this out and am well on my way to making these things happen, I also have a mapped out blogging/work schedule that I’m also pretty committed to; for my brand and for the brands I work for.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m in no way addicted to social media; but understand that this is my bread and butter, it’s my job…

It’s what’s helping to pay for the wedding! 

The irony, right?! LOL! 

It’s been a fight of women for centuries (it seems): having a perfectly balanced work and personal life. So the minute you feel you have to turn your back on one to tend to the other for a bit, the guilt weighs heavily.

Ask the mom who has to go back to work after having her kid, or the girl who has to miss her sister’s graduation because she got the call for a big job interview!

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I posted this to my Twitter account the other day:

And ya know what…I might have been weighed down with guilt when I started writing this blog, but I think I am going to take some time away from the pitches and proposals and editing suites and just focus on what’s important right now; and that’s planning my wedding and my new life…guilt-free!

This, to me, right now is my job. This is where I need to focus all of my attention and not feel bad about doing so.

So excuse me while I take a step back from work and tend to this once in a lifetime experience. Pardon me as I disappear from your timelines for a bit to prepare for my new role as wife.

The plan isn’t to completely leave you hanging, though; but just to shift the balance a bit and bask in the freedom of owning my time. After all, I didn’t become an entrepreneur to still feel handcuffed to an assignment sheet!

Will you be here when I get back?

And tell me, do you ever feel guilty for taking a break from either work or personal obligations? Let’s chat in the comments below! 



13 Responses
  • Takara
    June 1, 2018

    Definitely take the time off. I’ve never planned a wedding but I only can imagine how flustered you will be the few weeks leading up to your big day if you have too many undotted I’s And uncrossed T’s. I think not taking the time off will lead to frustration and resentment later on. All of this planning will make for an awesome blog post anyhow and all of us will be right here waiting for it.

    • ianthia
      June 3, 2018

      thank you so much!
      Advice taken!

  • Shevoneese McFarlane
    May 29, 2018

    Girl, I understand the feeling. I’m currently on a break from my blog and I feel so guilty every day and I get worked up wondering if my readers will still be around when I return but its best to attend to what’s important. The loyal followers will stick around! Congratulations again on your upcoming nuputials!

    • ianthia
      June 1, 2018

      thanks so much! So happy to know I’m not alone!

  • Jarrell
    May 28, 2018

    It is hard to balance work and our personal lives, but I’m with you, step back and focus on this moment for you. Congratulations!

    • ianthia
      June 1, 2018

      Definitely! It’s such a funny balancing act!
      Thanks so much!

  • Sherelle Wallace
    May 28, 2018

    Girl, WORK will always be there. Your wedding day is ONE DAY. Take the time off! Whenever I get married it will be low, low key…at a JP’s office with ENTIRE wedding party being ten people; reception at a nearby restaurant. My status on social media won’t change for maybe six months after the fact, no wedding pictures before then. Yet, once I say Yes and set a date…..all else will come second place in my life. People/clients who care for your well-being, WILL BE HERE WHEN YOU COME BACK!

    • ianthia
      May 28, 2018

      Thank you soooooo much!!!!! i just feel so guilty lol!

  • 4EverTalia
    May 28, 2018


    You’ve got this, and we’ll be here waiting.

    • ianthia
      May 28, 2018

      Yasssss I need to #reclaimmytime
      Thanks for sticking around!

  • Christine
    May 27, 2018

    You can do it all. Yes it will get overwhelming but you will get it done. For your Painting needs the wonderful staff at Sandyport or Bilney Lane locations can assist. Count down to 18 8 18.

    • ianthia
      May 28, 2018

      Thanks so much! Will definitely need some relaxing events!
      The countdown is on!

  • DearDerean
    May 27, 2018

    I’ll definitely be here when you get back! And I’ll be looking forward to your post-wedding blog posts as you make this beautiful transition from fiancée to wife. Congratulations ❤️